How do you deal with the anger of the family mentally disabled child

How do you deal with the anger of the family mentally disabled child

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When the age of the child up to three years ease tantrums has, because it has become more able to express himself through language, and began to grow and develop his abilities, and became busier life matters prevented him from repeating such attacks, but that it does not quite apply to a child with a intellectual disabilities, where the linguistic aspect remains less sophisticated and therefore less ability in verbal expression of the same feelings

In addition to the delay has in various developmental aspects, thus raising the frequency of these seizures through which all things emotional and sentimental interior, where there are still mental abilities and skills that qualify him to deal with the surrounding variables are less developed, and is therefore less capable when faced with and adapt to . In order to properly deal with temper tantrums in children, it is imperative for parents and their children from the care taking into account the following points

Broadcast positive outlook

It is necessary to give the child positive messages and clear about the things that we expect from him, and that should not be higher than the abilities and energies, as well as positive and specific instructions as well, such as: (I expect you today to act during the visit politely, and you are capable of doing so).

Where have these instructions resonate wider when the baby instead of using a phrase like :( I can not afford crying and tantrums, therefore Be polite nor raised anger during the visit), it is difficult for us to convince the child and Mradath, during the occurrence has passion, but we can create the right atmosphere the lack of a seizure, and create a positive outlook towards him.

Emotional catharsis

The mother to allow her son to a lot of anger to vent emotional from time to time, and Taouidh that uses his body in a positive way to exercise kinetic activities and hobbies outside the home or inside it, and to allow him to hear the music, jumping, playing sports, and encourage him to draw his feelings and drawing views express anger using colors he loves, no matter how random this simple graphics

Taking into account the ability to tradition

Children learn from adults method for expressing their anger, there is a parent of reflecting anger at the family as a whole atmosphere and deal violently with family members, and there are those who empties his anger by hitting the pillow, relax or go out for a walk, so the ears and small eyes watching everything that happens, and assuming , even if the children of different levels of mental disability

Lack of reinforcement

Some teachers and mothers Aazzn temper tantrums when the child by giving him what he wants to get it, leads to the fact that the child turn down for this behavior until he gets the finish, for example, a child who takes a piece of chocolate in front of the accountant table when you go out shopping place, will resort to this behavior every If time did not face a backlash by his parents

If parents really wanted to stop the child from this behavior, they should explain the situation to him, and that he should not take the chocolates on the table the next time with explain why, and to assign the child with the help of the mother during the development of purchases on the mobile account tape so as not to feel bored, or assigned by reminding the mother to buy a certain commodity for the house during the shopping tour, the child feels that an actor in shopping or other activities and visits a process, not just responsive to commands.

Foes

May lead ignore passion to positive results, especially when the child throws from which to draw the attention of others, then advised not to concern behavior with the survival of interest in the child, and that child is aware that his behavior is wrong and it was ignored, rearranging matter of looking for acceptable behavior to be strengthened.

If the mother ignored the passion and moved away away from the child may be better, but after giving it a hint that when the rest will come and help him and find out what he wants, but as long as this situation will not meet his desires, and in this important to the mother or parameter moments to be patient and show restraint, because the unit may increase the anger of the child in the first moments of the ignored, but the anger is soon to calm down after a period of time

Isolation

Some mothers may resort to the child in his room isolation when there is intense anger revolution, baby toys Vijrb or break room purposes, but to remember that these are the toys he loves or his property, and will bear the results of destruction will not bring his family a substitute for it, and after they expire anger him revolution take responsibility for scattering purposes in the room and therefore rearranged.

Dealing with tantrums outside the home

As tantrums occur when a child in the house were also get outside, when designing a child to take a piece of chocolate from the shopping center, and when the mother is determined to not take them, the struggle for the desires happen with him could lead to a fit of anger and explosion emotional, but a lot of places such as shopping malls, parks and entertainment venues are attractive for children because they contain a lot of things he wants to get it and can not

Had a fit of anger may have occurred in the house mother was able to easily handled by the neglect of the child, but in public places can not do so because his behavior will disturb others and Ihrjha.lzlk behave in public places with the child quietly and low voice, and try to calm him down and talk to him about attitude that bothers him and justified him, with the importance of maintaining restraint because the child if he felt that anger began to seep into the mother ÷ which will of course be interested in what people think the people around them in order to avoid embarrassment ÷ cry more nervous and will enhance the mother of his behavior.

If a child has not slowed in that position, it is preferable to take it out of place to the car, and if he refused to walk be well with him and talking to him quietly and with a visual adequate communication, and notified understanding of his problem, and justify the reasons that the mother called for rejection of his application or meet his desire, and if it stops crying and anger will help him, and tell him that the return to the park or public place that would have been associated with a cool head, if not slowed or visit the tour will end the family and were retreating back into the house

There is no doubt that sitting in the car away will feel bored child goes back to calm in order to return to the place where he was first. Although this could be avoided completely surrender to the request of the child and give him what he wants (a piece of chocolate, for example), but it involves the risk that the child gets used to obtain the demands and desires through tears and anger.

And the mother should not think that all the people judge the actions and previously monitored through their dealings with the child in public places, many of the parents and shoppers and hikers accompanied by children, and it is natural that haunt the child tantrum in these places, though the family children with intellectual disabilities and features physical suggest to this disability in front of others, it does not mean that does not deal with the same method of dealing with these situations in a normal child, even to give him what he wants on the grounds that it will affect disabled over the development of behavioral and social independence

The important thing is that the mother remains in the case of calm and stability in order to be more control over her child when he gave them crying or anger in public attitudes, but the people around will respect the way we deal with our baby in this way, has been staring us some people, however, exclude others from the position is the solution

Finally, I would like to add here that the vacuum that is going through a child while in public places may be a cause for anger, when is small hands occupancy of the small minds are less volatile and mood, as well as the hunger and fatigue could trigger anger at the child, so you must make sure that the child In the case of satiation and comfort in advance before you go out of the house, as well as the boredom could create anger, so you must occupancy his mind and body so as not to feel bored, and involvement, even the simple act assistant